Soccer Player Learns All 3 Kids Not His
Former soccer star Nii Odartey Lamptey of Ghana is currently facing one of the most devastating situations any man can confront. He has recently found out through DNA testing that all three of his children — children he’s fathered and cared for since they were born — are not really his own biological offspring. This means he has spent nearly his entire married life (about 20 years) raising children that were not actually his, biologically speaking.
DNA and the Legal Definition of Fatherhood
There is a huge debate in legal circles about the meaning of fatherhood. Attorney David Pisarra, a nationally recognized Father’s Rights Expert, told me in a personal interview that if an unmarried man signs an affidavit of paternity for a child, he has only about 60 days (in many states) to reconsider it. After that, even if a DNA test confirms that he is not really the biological father, he is still considered to be the legal father. As such, he is responsible economically and otherwise for someone else’s offspring. Shockingly, in Texas, a non-dad who is proven by a DNA test to not be the father can be barred from visitation with that child but still mandated to support the child financially!
In my experience, I deal with a lot of people who grow up not knowing the truth about their biological heritage or parentage. In virtually all cases, the secrecy, falsehood, or pretenses under which they were raised ends up being the precise issue about which they have the most resentment. Therefore, while I understand the courts’ desire to mandate fatherhood for the best interest of a child, I wish they would also consider that the child will one day become an adult. Courts should take into account how that child will be affected by revelations of their actual paternity in their adulthood.
Nii Odartey Lamptey DNA test
In recent years, the 38-year-old former soccer player, Lamptey, had strongly suspected his wife of infidelity and proceeded to have a DNA test conducted. The test confirmed his suspicions. Despite suspecting his wife of being unfaithful for some time now, Lamptey had made the decision to stay in the marriage out of his love for her as well as the stability of a business chain that they own jointly. Sources close to Lamptey indicate that the former Ghana star struggled throughout the marriage to make his wife stop cheating on him. Lamptey is now seeking a divorce.
Paternity testing can identify the father of a child with 99.99% certainty. A simple cheek-swab test is all that’s required for definitive answers. Had Lamptey sought a paternity test earlier, he would’ve received clarity about the truth of his family situation sooner. He would’ve been further along in coping with the actual reality of his family life.
Evolutionary Instincts vs. Social Dad
The social implications are not as definitive. What is Lamptey to do now? Are these kids still his? Is a “social dad” as meaningful as a “biological dad”? Will his Darwinian instincts drive him away from the children he raised, or will he rise above the pain and continue to be their dad? And what about the kids? Will they now seek out their biological father(s), and how will Lamptey deal with it?
No one is immune from being misled or deceived, but no one can argue that an early DNA test offers the opportunity for definitive clarity and the ability to proceed in life on solid ground, rooted in the truth. My wish for Lamptey is that he did it a long time ago…