Idris Elba Paternity Test
Idris Elba, Golden Globe winning star of Pacific Rim and Luther, revealed recently that finding out his son wasn’t his biological child was “like a full-on punch to the face.” He thinks he will get laughed at for the rest of his life. He speaks of public humiliation in a way that makes me wonder yet again, why is paternity still one of the most taboo topics in society?
Elba has usually been talkative about his son, and by all accounts appeared to be very close with him. Elba met and dated the boy’s mother years ago in Florida. He says until recently he never knew that she had other partners when they were together. It wasn’t until taking a paternity test that he found out the truth.
But Elba, like many others, says it’s for the best. He knows for sure now. It’s a critical question to answer for anyone with doubts, so critical that it can haunt the unsure for years or even decades.
According to the New York Times, paternity testing has increased dramatically over the past decade. Now, more than 400,000 tests are performed every year. And that number is increasing as more and more parents want answers. About 30 percent of fathers who request those tests find out they are not the father. And in a controversial twist of the law, a majority of judges find that it doesn’t matter – the “original” fathers are by and large ordered to continue supporting children that are not biologically theirs, even if they choose to break off relations. A recent case in Alaska found that a father should continue to fulfill his parental role to avoid driving a wedge between the father and his child.
In a courtroom, paternity is a question decided on a case by case basis. Individually, my clients vary greatly in their own opinions about what they will do if it turns out that they are not the biological father. But in the DNA, it’s a question that has a definitive, cut and dried answer. You are or you are not the father.
Regardless of where you stand on this issue, paternity is not a question you want lingering in your mind. Questions as fundamental as this do not go away by themselves, and they don’t get any easier with time. The best time to get a paternity test is the very first moment that you know that there is more than one possible father. The only way to bring any semblance of closure to your life is get a test. The test is so simple (a cheek swab) that it boggles the mind why some people put it off for years. Think about all the heartache that Elba could have avoided if he had gotten the test in the first days of his son’s life.